Today is the day to break free from the person you know you to be
and step into a self you have yet to know.
Will it be comfortable?
No, but do it anyway.
The Fourth of July Independence Day is approaching. Happy Birthday America! A day worth remembering and reminiscing. The Fourth of July is the day America became independent of Great Britain. This day represents freedom to make our own rules and responsibility for our welfare.
As the big celebration is only a few days away, it promises sunny, blue skies, white puffy clouds, birds singing. A picture perfect South Florida day! It’s a rainy time, so it may prove to burst through with a brief thunderstorm early before the fire work festivities begin.
A Time for Celebration
It is a great time for America to remember and celebrate. Although a truly glorious day, somewhere someone is mourning. Someone is sick. Someone is losing someone. I think of Mom and recall several Fourth of July weekends before she suffered a massive stroke at sixty-two years of age.
Every summer we spent up in Wautoma, Wisconsin, watching the firework festivities from Big Silver Lake sitting around the campfire, oohing and ahing at the spectacular show.
And now I’m the elder adult and mom has long passed and yet we move forward to make fresh memories with those younger family members. Life goes on and celebrations continue with or without our loved ones.
The same holds true on this Fourth day of July celebration. Though some of us might grapple with an emotional, physical, or spiritual loss, the 4th of July must go on.
It is no doubt a time for celebration, which includes picnics, boat outings, barbeques, et cetera. Of course, with celebrations come foods, drinks and temptations. This is the American way!
But, perhaps not everyone is so festive. Many suffer from illnesses and losses. We’ve been through political unrest, pandemic and watching a war in Ukraine. In my own life, I have losses and family members suffering from illnesses and aging and I’m sure you reader do as well.
Yet the show must go on and laughter and celebration will ensue.
And with this celebration, I can’t help but wonder what role food plays in illnesses, losses, and death. As an eating disorder specialist, a person in recovery from food addiction, and the author of the Obsession series, I think about those struggling with food, alcohol and drug issues during this festive holiday.
Addictions Know NO Bias
The young and old, rich and poor, are affected by these obsessions. Take Michael Jackson for instance. He died on June 29th, 2009, a fifty-year-old icon, weighing in at 112 pounds at the time of his death.
It is my understanding he was somewhere between 5-8 and 5-10 in height. In my line of work (eating disorders, body image dysmorphia, and mood disorders) this would be a huge red flag. Did he suffer from a low self, body image?
It seems clear by his history of plastic surgery and total change in body appearance he did. Did he suffer from addictions to prescription drugs? With all the surgeries and other medical issues he had, he was in chronic pain and may have become addicted to prescription medications.
I have witnessed in my practice as a certified addiction professional, addictions to medications quite common. Did he have an eating disorder tied in? Maybe. I heard nothing regarding this; however, he wasn’t of normal weight and seemed to have an issue with growing up. Perhaps he kept his body frame boy-like to avoid growing up.
Many female anorexics keep their body’s girl-like, stop menses, and appear to harbor a flat chest to hide their femininity, perhaps to be in control. My Mom did not restrict, she was the opposite. She wore her weight and then some.
My mom ate large portions of high-fat, salty foods. Perhaps she grew her body rather than restricted to accomplish the same goal of hiding her feminine side.
As pointed out with Michael Jackson, men are not free from eating disorders and/or body image dysmorphia. My uncle, a rather large man, died from cancer. He ate heavy meals, did not exercise, wore extra weight, which may have shortened his life. He died young, late fifties.
I believe unprocessed foods play a huge role in healthy minds and healthy bodies. All of my books, CDs, and blogs address the importance of clean eating, exercise, and spiritual recovery.
The Fourth of July is what most hope to be a glorious day. The Florida sun tucked away for the evening as festivities of the 4th lights the sky. I wonder, as the last bits of fireworks fall from the sky, sounds still within earshot, how many close this day with full bellies and empty bellies both rumbling from bingeing or restricting.
Many are alone and lonely, turning to food for comfort, or not. Eating disorders come in many guises. It does not matter if you’re black or white, or somewhere in between. It does not matter if you’re rich or poor, or somewhere in the middle.
Look at Michael Jackson, Elvis Presley, Elizabeth Taylor, Oprah, all rich and famous, all suffered/suffering from eating disorders and/or addictions of some type.
This year I celebrate America’s Independence. Also, I celebrate my independence; I broke away from food controlling me, and now live freely. I hope those suffering and hurting this holiday weekend will find independence from pain and sadness and losing loved ones.
Life is to be celebrated. America is to be celebrated. Let’s wave our flag proudly. We live in a country that offers help and hope to all.
How do you celebrate the Fourth of July? Is it a festive time or a time of sadness? Do you find food and drink take over? Perhaps it’s a great time with no obsessions or addictions, we’d love to hear from you too! Simply scroll all the way down to the comments section.
Thank you for spending time with me and my thoughts throughout these pages. I hope my words lit your excitement to become your best self for you. I look forward to sharing my newest book with you on how to Release Your obsession with YOUR PHONE. God bless you… and your journey through this life and all that awaits beyond…
Thank you for being a part of the reading blog forum of this blog. If you have something you’d like to say, I’d love to hear it. YOU are important and your words need to be heard. I’m here for you.
To learn more on recovery from food addiction, eating disorders, weight issues, dieting, and aging, please check out my Release Your Obsession Series.
Stay tuned…you never know where my mind will wander…
And now my newest release: