An excerpt from Release Your Obsession With Money: Heal from the Inside Out, coming soon…fall, 2021!
What would imagining money into reality be like? Is that possible? Well, yes, it is possible to imagine money into reality, but how you begin the process is important. Shelby Taylor Weaver writes, “With a closed mind and heart, the light cannot enter.”
Open your mind and heart and let the light in. With a closed mind and heart, how can you imagine the possibilities? The important first step in imagination is to make sure you’re going by your imagination, not that of another.
Mark Nepo, author of The Book of Awakening, Having the Life You Want by Being Present to the Life You Have, says, “We are born with only one obligation—to be completely who we are. Yet how much of our time is spent comparing ourselves to others, dead and alive! This is encouraged as necessary in the pursuit of excellence. Yet a flower in its excellence does not yearn to be a fish, and a fish in its unmanaged elegance does not long to be a tiger. But, we humans find ourselves always falling into the dream of another life”
Stop doing that! Yes, imagine money into reality—though not another’s idea of money but yours. Often we secretly aspire to be like someone else, particularly in whatever they have. Have what you have, not what another has. If we’re always chasing what others have, it interrupts our own opportunity to be our authentic self. Nepo hits it spot on eloquently, “We experience the tension of comparing, as if there is only one ounce of being to feed all our hungers. But the Universe reveals its abundance most clearly when we can be who we are.”
This is the point I hoped to drove home throughout this book (Release Your Obsession With MONEY: Heal from the Inside Out). You can imagine what you want into reality, but don’t make it another’s dream, make it your dream. And how you do that is by staying mindful.
Stay in the reality of where you are and move from that point. Don’t imagine a home on the ocean when you don’t have a job or you’re knee-deep in debt, expecting to obtain the enticing ocean property without putting forth the work. That’s magical thinking. And from the previous chapters touching on magical thinking, you should understand that’s not the way to bring forth money into reality.
Today my goal is to stay present. Have you ever tried this? The mind always wants to think about what needs to be done next or what we already did. Stop for a moment and connect to your now. What do you see? What do you feel?
Focusing on the here and now is difficult for most. What makes me fixed on staying present is the surrounding chaos. Many of my loved ones, especially in the wake of Covid, are experiencing tough situations, which encourages me to sit still in gratitude for what I have and am thankful for.
Recently, I took a morning walk along the Intracoastal Waterway and Atlantic Ocean. The view was spectacular. I saw the sun peek out over the purple/orange backdrop on the ocean shoreline. A new day was about to begin. My legs were strong and my energy abounded. My fur-child Southern Grace moved with me as if we were one. Her tail swished side to side, showing her joy at being with me out on a walk. She lives in the now.
Did you ever notice that your fur and feather babies live in the now? They’re not thinking about yesterday or tomorrow, just this moment. What would that be like for you?
Suppose a person learns they have an illness. Let’s say they have a rare disease and soon they will no longer be able to see. I would imagine for the time left they would look at everything with attention, knowing soon they would be overcome by a sea of darkness.
Do we need to learn of an impending illness before we connect to the moment?
I wonder why not see today as if it were our last view of the world? Or live each day as if it were our last. What would we do differently? Who would we want to spend time with? What would we say that we’ve not said?
To rein ourselves in to the moment, we can practice mindfulness. The dictionary defines mindfulness as calm awareness of one’s body functions, feelings, content of consciousness, or consciousness itself.
I am totally conscious of my fingers dancing over the keys, putting words together. I am told mindfulness is the path to liberation and enlightenment. It is the intense purpose of staying in the now. I get this. For years I obsessed over paying off all monies owed to the tune of hundreds of thousands of dollars. My goal was to become debt free.
During this quest, I found remaining in the present difficult because I was living for the future of no debt. I had a special birthday that year: 9-9-09. What made that day special beyond the cool numbers? I had decided two years prior to pay off all my debts, including my student loan with Miss Sallie on September 9, 2009. I kept my nose to the grindstone for two years and hadn’t wavered one iota to purchase anything that wasn’t of absolute necessity. I learned to live with less and appreciate the gifts around me daily.
I accomplished my goal and on Wednesday, 9-9-09, I wrote my last check to Sallie Mae and enthusiastically dropped it in the mailbox on my way to work. I thought I would hear a chorus of angels burst into song. I did not. But what I did experience was a keen awareness of peace and liberation. I no longer was a slave to owing a student loan.
I then moved on to freedom from my home mortgage and on Friday 11-11-11, I freed myself once again, this time from Mr. Sun Trust. Once more I enthusiastically dropped the last check in the mailbox, but this time I knew the choir of angels wouldn’t burst into song, but I would—and I did.
I was free, completely debt free. All credit card debt, car debt, student loan debt, and house debt were gone. I felt as light as a feather in the wind—free at last from the burdens of debt.
So, today I am present. I refuse to think about what needs to be done next or what I already did. I am present with each breath in and out. I am present to the sounds of birds singing and the whispers of the wind as it winds through the palm trees out my window. I am here and now.
What makes me fixed on staying present is the surrounding chaos. Loved ones are at personal crossroads–forced to face difficult situations—which encourages me to sit still in gratitude for what I have and am thankful for.
Before I could emerge from debt, I imagined what being debt free would be like. It seemed to me like a taste of freedom. It seemed like a relief. It seemed to me like the answer to all of my worries, fears, and insecurities. And it was.
Nothing feels as good as being debt free. So what do you do to imagine money into reality? You imagine the steps that will lead you to the money.
1. Identify Your Money Dream: What do you want to imagine? Is it owning your own home, or is it being debt free, or is it to travel? Be specific in the dream. My dream was clearly to eliminate the monkey of debt that was tightly wrapped around my neck.
2. Identify What Money Can Do For You: Money can protect you and help you take care of what you’re afraid might cause pain in the future. I didn’t want the pain of living my retired years in poverty. I wanted to avoid the pain of being in that constant fear of where the next dollar would come from.
3. Identify Your Feel Good: What is the money going to bring you that will provide you with happiness and satisfaction? Maybe that diamond ring you always wanted or the red Corvette you’ve dreamed of owning. That’s fine. Maybe that ocean-front property, with a plan in place.
4. Identify Your Money And Others: Perhaps you want to leave money to your loved ones, or you want to know you can take care of those in need. This is good. Leaving money is a noble thing to do, especially if you’ve lived well by teaching your kids how to respect money and give to others less fortunate.
When I climbed out of debt, I imagined what it would be like. I imagined being free of the worry as to how I’d pay my basic bills. I imagined what letting the money grow in case I should need it would be like. And the more it grew, the less I wanted to spend, the less obsessed I became. This was an eye opener for me.
I always thought the more money you have, the more you spend, but it turns out for me the opposite was true. And I suspect the opposite may be true for you, too. It’s sort of like dieting. When a person is told they can’t eat cake, they might jones for cake. But when they feel good with all the other luscious foods available, they no longer want the cake.
When you have the money, you no longer jones to buy what you thought you might want. The real goal is to understand you and money.
Do you wish to get out of debt? Can you imagine living free from money worries? What steps do you have in place to live your best life?
What is your dream? Are you tapping into your wish for this life? If so, we’d love to hear about your journey. If not, we’d love to hear that too.
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