I’m sitting at my getaway house to get away and work on my next book on aging—or the fear of it.
I know, you might be thinking, but wait a second, you just launched your third book only minutes ago. Okay, maybe not minutes but weeks for sure, so why the heck another book. Well, because I see aging is connected to weight, body image, eating disorders and the like.
Everywhere I turn someone is doing something to stop the aging process. Can we?
There is no doubt that being young is fast, fun, and exciting—but there is a time and a season for all things. This is not to say we shouldn’t stay youthful because we should but not to the point of a gripping obsession.
I’m exploring how we can age gracefully without signing up for every pill, surgery, needle, vitamin and the list goes on and on.
The population I work with (which very well may be you!!) is fearful of the aging process working on the quest to forever stay young. And, I admit, sometimes I too am on this same hunt. I too question if I should get my eyes done or a nip and tuck somewhere. But, where does it end?
Or, where does it begin?
I remember this lovely woman who came to see me years back because she was out of control with her food. She was a diet jumper. She always found one fad diet or another to go on. And of course each time she was with a vengeance saying, “This time it’s going to work.” And it didn’t.
She had so many fears: fear of getting fat; fear of being alone; fear of getting old; fear of running out of time.
Anyway, once we unpacked what was really going on with her it came to fear of aging. At first, I thought she was in her forties,or so—but as she moved, talked, and motioned with her hands, not to mention noting her neck, I realized she was far older than her beautiful face.
Hmmm, I pondered on that for quite some time. Is it better to have a youthful face with old body parts or is it better to be your best with where you are? Hence…the birth of my fourth book on the aging process and how we can muster up the strength and understanding on how do move through life in a healthy body, mind, and spiritual connection.
So, you might be wondering whatever happened to this woman. Well, she went on another diet, and then another, and then a surgery, and then some Botox…until she realized none of it was allowing her to be her authentic self. That no matter how many nips and tucks and pounds lost and pounds gained she couldn’t run away from her self. That she needed to love herself and embrace her gifts.
And gifts she had.
She was kind and giving and selfless when it came to others. She realized how important it was to wake every morning with a purpose—with something to do. She no longer chases the diets, and now lives in a healthy perfect size for her, and though she loves her creams and primping, she’s less urgent about staying young and more attentive to live healthy.
What about you? Are you chasing diets? Are you chasing young? How’s that working for you? If you are not chasing thin and you’re not chasing youth please tell us your secret—we all want to hear from you.
Stay tuned…you never know where my mind will wander…
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