It seems like only yesterday I was sitting at my getaway house to get away and work on my next book on aging—or the fear of it. And now here it is months later, my book launched and my next book on releasing your obsession with money months away from the editor’s watchful eye. Time waits for no one, nor does aging.
I know, you might think, but wait a second, you just launched your fourth book only minutes ago. Okay, maybe not minutes but weeks for sure, so why the heck of another book. Well, because I see aging connected to weight, body image, eating disorders. And guess what? My book on money also connects to our self-image, but that’s for another time. Right now it’s about aging and the quest to prevent such a thing from happening.
Everywhere I turn, someone is stopping the aging process. Can we?
Being young is fast, fun, and exciting—but there is a time and a season for all things. Not that we shouldn’t stay youthful because we should, but not to the point of a gripping obsession.
I’m exploring how we can age gracefully without signing up for every pill, surgery, needle, vitamin and the list goes on and on.
The population I work with (which very well may be you!!) is fearful of the aging process working on the quest to stay forever young. And, I admit, sometimes I too am on this same hunt. I too question if I should get my eyes done or a nip and tuck somewhere. But where does it end?
Or where does it begin?
I remember this lovely woman who came to see me years back because she was out of control with her food. She was a diet jumper. She always found one fad diet or another to go on. And of course each time she was with a vengeance saying, “This time it’s going to work.” And it didn’t.
She had so many fears: fear of getting fat; fear of being alone; fear of getting old; fear of running out of time.
Anyway, once we unpacked what was really going on with her, it came to fear of aging.
At first, I thought she was in her forties, or so—but as she moved, talked, and motioned with her hands, not to mention noting her neck, I realized she was far older than her beautiful face.
Hmm, I pondered on that for quite some time. Is it better to have a youthful face with old body parts, or is it better to be your best with where you are? Hence, the birth of my fourth book on the aging process, and how we can muster up the strength and understanding of how we move through life in a healthy body, mind, and spiritual connection.
So, you might wonder what happened to this woman. Well, she went on another diet, and then another, and then a surgery, and then some Botox… until she realized none of it was allowing her to be her authentic self. That no matter how many nips and tucks and pounds lost and pounds gained, she couldn’t run away from herself.
That she needed to love herself and embrace her gifts.
And gifts she had.
She was kind and giving and selfless with others. She realized how important it was to wake every morning with a purpose—with something to do. She no longer chases the diets, and now lives in a healthy, perfect size for her, and though she loves her creams and primping, she’s less urgent about staying young and more attentive to live healthy.
So we will all age, but how we age is in our control. We can age gracefully with self-care which includes eating nutritious foods, daily exercise, adequate sleep, water for re-hydrating, and fun.
Don’t forget to kick back and have some good old fashion fun. You know, the fun where you laugh so hard you want to fall on your knees like the little kids do as they clutch their tummy because so much laughing hurts so good.
What about you? Are you chasing diets? Are you chasing young? How’s that working for you? If you are not chasing thin and you’re not chasing youth, please tell us your secret—we all want to hear from you.
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